The last time that I tried the online dating thing I ended up coming to the conclusion that men really do need to be taken care of. The men that I met who were Divorced, separated, or (the most attactive ones) lying , cheating married guys, dress nice and smell nice. The long-term bachelors on the other hand seem to cut their own hair, have a wardrobe attained from years of birthday/christmas presents from mom, and most charming of all, seem to think that showering every other day is okay. At least I think that is the reason for the “old man” smell that you notice if you get too close (goodby hug).
I have said before and will say again that I don’t have a problem with being middle-aged. I look middle-aged, act middle-aged, have the concerns and values of a middle-aged person. It annoys me when people my age say that they are in their 40s but feel like they are in their 20s, like there is something wrong with being in your 40s. Well that is what I thought before I dated some of my fellow 40 plusers. I am thinking that for dating I might have to look at a pool younger than I am. Which leads folks to believe that I am playing Cougar but I have no desire to introduce and train a youngster to the happy times of a consensual man/woman relationship. There are self-help books; if you need help go to the bookstore and leave me alone. But I decide to go into this with an open mind that not all spring/winter things are based on Cougarism.
My recent on-line trolling snagged a 24-year-old that seemed grounded, intelligent, ambitious, witty and charming. I was sure that when we met he would not smell like an old man….what I didn’t count on was a level of immaturity that I havent come across in…..humm probally 20 years. And to top it off…while we were “friends” he had modified his goals to include “intimate relationship” so now the whole on-line dating community thinks that I have like goals. It is like he left me with on-line syph or something LOL. I have to delete my profile and start a new one to get that off my history. Not a big deal cause I’m really not interested in any of the other suitors.
I have to admit I started off the year hating all men, but i will head out to a mixer skate on Friday evening in the hope of meeting some nice guys and dispelling the hate…..I dont like being a hater.
